Comments on: Surviving the Recession, Part 1: What It’s Doing to Us http://anxietypanichealth.com/2009/04/20/surviving-the-recession-part-1-what-its-doing-to-us/ Living with Health, Wellness and Wholeness Tue, 07 Feb 2012 22:41:34 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: Acid Jazz CD http://anxietypanichealth.com/2009/04/20/surviving-the-recession-part-1-what-its-doing-to-us/comment-page-1/#comment-9114 Acid Jazz CD Sat, 15 May 2010 05:48:05 +0000 http://anxietypanichealth.com/?p=729#comment-9114 one associated with the amazing post I've ever seen in this forum. I this very much beneficial for my future work. many thanks to a person very much . one associated with the amazing post I’ve ever seen in this forum. I this very much beneficial for my future work. many thanks to a person very much .

]]> By: Mike http://anxietypanichealth.com/2009/04/20/surviving-the-recession-part-1-what-its-doing-to-us/comment-page-1/#comment-6045 Mike Sat, 25 Apr 2009 21:09:52 +0000 http://anxietypanichealth.com/?p=729#comment-6045 Hi, Tracy! Thanks for the comment! I can get to be a real news hound, in particular reading several newspapers online. I find when I'm most obsessed, my worry and angst levels peak and my day (and my mind) plunges. I really have to discipline myself to maintain equilibrium between knowing what's going on and becoming bogged down in the minutia of side-stories and editorials. As I advise in <a href="http://anxietypanichealth.com/2009/04/24/surviving-the-recession-part-3-15-things-you-can-do-to-regain-control/" rel="nofollow">Surviving the Recession, Part 3: 15 Things You Can Do to Regain Control</a>, I just have to turn off the news in all its media forms from time to time just to stay sane -- or as sane as I can get! Hi, Tracy! Thanks for the comment!

I can get to be a real news hound, in particular reading several newspapers online. I find when I’m most obsessed, my worry and angst levels peak and my day (and my mind) plunges. I really have to discipline myself to maintain equilibrium between knowing what’s going on and becoming bogged down in the minutia of side-stories and editorials. As I advise in Surviving the Recession, Part 3: 15 Things You Can Do to Regain Control, I just have to turn off the news in all its media forms from time to time just to stay sane — or as sane as I can get!

]]> By: Tracy http://anxietypanichealth.com/2009/04/20/surviving-the-recession-part-1-what-its-doing-to-us/comment-page-1/#comment-5999 Tracy Wed, 22 Apr 2009 04:20:45 +0000 http://anxietypanichealth.com/?p=729#comment-5999 Hi Mike, great article! I am like Barbara, watching too much news or reading too many articles just makes gives me this generalized feeling of gloom and doom so I limit it. I'm not unaware of what is going on, but no need to submerse myself in it. I have been more frugal lately, but I think that's more to do with buying a house last summer and being a bit house poor. "The crazy (!) thing is that many people think that if you’re not worrying, you aren’t sufficiently concerned or don’t feel the urgency of the situation." You know, I also see this a lot with people wanting to read every horror story about child abuse and molestation. I understand the instinct but it seems like immersing yourself in it and seeking it out leads to a distorted view of the world. I think I can care and do what I can to help without drowning myself in it. <abbr><em>Tracy’s last blog post..<a href="http://ihatemymessageboard.com/2009/04/21/my-values-are-what-motivate-me/" rel="nofollow">My values are what motivate me</a></abbr></em> Hi Mike, great article! I am like Barbara, watching too much news or reading too many articles just makes gives me this generalized feeling of gloom and doom so I limit it. I’m not unaware of what is going on, but no need to submerse myself in it. I have been more frugal lately, but I think that’s more to do with buying a house last summer and being a bit house poor.

“The crazy (!) thing is that many people think that if you’re not worrying, you aren’t sufficiently concerned or don’t feel the urgency of the situation.”

You know, I also see this a lot with people wanting to read every horror story about child abuse and molestation. I understand the instinct but it seems like immersing yourself in it and seeking it out leads to a distorted view of the world. I think I can care and do what I can to help without drowning myself in it.

Tracy’s last blog post..My values are what motivate me

]]> By: Mike http://anxietypanichealth.com/2009/04/20/surviving-the-recession-part-1-what-its-doing-to-us/comment-page-1/#comment-5997 Mike Wed, 22 Apr 2009 03:40:58 +0000 http://anxietypanichealth.com/?p=729#comment-5997 Thank you, Jane, for the compliments and your comment! We've faced a similar problem with our 28-year-old son. And we made the same decision as you have. At some point you just have to untie the apron strings. After all, we still have a 20-year-old at home and in college. She deserves the same opportunities we gave him, and we can't do that if we continue to subsidize him. Suze Orman has a good point, and you do, too. We sometimes (often?) forget how fortunate we are, and how there are people swimming rivers and climbing over fences just to enjoy living in our country! Thank you, Jane, for the compliments and your comment!

We’ve faced a similar problem with our 28-year-old son. And we made the same decision as you have. At some point you just have to untie the apron strings. After all, we still have a 20-year-old at home and in college. She deserves the same opportunities we gave him, and we can’t do that if we continue to subsidize him.

Suze Orman has a good point, and you do, too. We sometimes (often?) forget how fortunate we are, and how there are people swimming rivers and climbing over fences just to enjoy living in our country!

]]> By: Surviving the Recession, Part 2: Anxiety, Harmful Behavior, and Paralysis — Anxiety, Panic & Health http://anxietypanichealth.com/2009/04/20/surviving-the-recession-part-1-what-its-doing-to-us/comment-page-1/#comment-5995 Surviving the Recession, Part 2: Anxiety, Harmful Behavior, and Paralysis — Anxiety, Panic & Health Wed, 22 Apr 2009 03:26:22 +0000 http://anxietypanichealth.com/?p=729#comment-5995 [...] sure to read yesterday’s installment, “Surviving the Recession, Part 1: What It’s Doing to Us.” It discusses what the recession is doing to us, and has the following [...] [...] sure to read yesterday’s installment, “Surviving the Recession, Part 1: What It’s Doing to Us.” It discusses what the recession is doing to us, and has the following [...]

]]> By: Jane O. http://anxietypanichealth.com/2009/04/20/surviving-the-recession-part-1-what-its-doing-to-us/comment-page-1/#comment-5992 Jane O. Tue, 21 Apr 2009 22:36:47 +0000 http://anxietypanichealth.com/?p=729#comment-5992 Great post Mike, In my case, it's my single 29 year old daughter that I worry about. She is a college grad, had a great job, but fell into the debt trap. She bought a townhouse...with a good mortgage...not a subprime. But, she has significant credit card debt and just lost her job. She does have 10 weeks severance and some Cobra assistance. But, I so worry that she may never bounce back and will lose her home. My instinct is to jump in and rescue her...pay her bills and mortgage pymts. But, my husband is not at all willing to do that. And he's right. She will learn some hard lessons, but I guess she needs to. My husband just retired in January, and I still work part time. We have pensions and some investments...so we're okay. Luckier than most. I think Suze Orman had some good advice when she said to stop thinking about what you "used" to have and be grateful for what you have now. Don't constantly look back at what might have been. Move on and make the most of what you have. After all, wealth is relative. There's always someone else in worse shape. Great post Mike,
In my case, it’s my single 29 year old daughter that I worry about. She is a college grad, had a great job, but fell into the debt trap. She bought a townhouse…with a good mortgage…not a subprime. But, she has significant credit card debt and just lost her job. She does have 10 weeks severance and some Cobra assistance. But, I so worry that she may never bounce back and will lose her home. My instinct is to jump in and rescue her…pay her bills and mortgage pymts. But, my husband is not at all willing to do that. And he’s right. She will learn some hard lessons, but I guess she needs to.
My husband just retired in January, and I still work part time. We have pensions and some investments…so we’re okay. Luckier than most. I think Suze Orman had some good advice when she said to stop thinking about what you “used” to have and be grateful for what you have now. Don’t constantly look back at what might have been. Move on and make the most of what you have. After all, wealth is relative. There’s always someone else in worse shape.

]]> By: Mike http://anxietypanichealth.com/2009/04/20/surviving-the-recession-part-1-what-its-doing-to-us/comment-page-1/#comment-5991 Mike Tue, 21 Apr 2009 20:35:48 +0000 http://anxietypanichealth.com/?p=729#comment-5991 Kim, thank you for your comment! Worry, I've read many times, is 95% about what won't happen, and 5% about things that are out of your control. Worry won't solve anything <i>ever</i>, but that doesn't stop some people (many people?) from obsessively worrying. The problem is that such worry only leads to anxieties, which can lead to real Anxiety Disorders. Part 2 of the series, to be posted today, deals with worry and the Anxiety Disorders, especially Generalized Anxiety Disorder (GAD). The crazy (!) thing is that many people think that if you're not worrying, you aren't sufficiently concerned or don't feel the urgency of the situation. I had major conflicts in a company I worked for about this very issue. I was greatly concerned, but I chose to be proactive rather than sitting around in a worry-party. They didn't get the point. I quit after only a year with them due to this and other issues. Kim, thank you for your comment!

Worry, I’ve read many times, is 95% about what won’t happen, and 5% about things that are out of your control. Worry won’t solve anything ever, but that doesn’t stop some people (many people?) from obsessively worrying. The problem is that such worry only leads to anxieties, which can lead to real Anxiety Disorders.

Part 2 of the series, to be posted today, deals with worry and the Anxiety Disorders, especially Generalized Anxiety Disorder (GAD).

The crazy (!) thing is that many people think that if you’re not worrying, you aren’t sufficiently concerned or don’t feel the urgency of the situation. I had major conflicts in a company I worked for about this very issue. I was greatly concerned, but I chose to be proactive rather than sitting around in a worry-party. They didn’t get the point. I quit after only a year with them due to this and other issues.

]]> By: Mike http://anxietypanichealth.com/2009/04/20/surviving-the-recession-part-1-what-its-doing-to-us/comment-page-1/#comment-5990 Mike Tue, 21 Apr 2009 20:27:25 +0000 http://anxietypanichealth.com/?p=729#comment-5990 Thanks, Barbara, for your comment! I'm glad your business is picking up. It seems like things are bit by tiny bit getting better. We're looking to refinance our mortgage, and the banks <i>are</i> lending, just with very stringent rules. Watching the news -- or in my case, reading the news obsessively -- can lead to real stress. Limiting your viewing was a wise step. Now, if I could only take that advice myself! Part 3 of the series has positive steps you can take to relieve some of the stress and anxiety of the recession. Number 1 on the list is to limit your TV news watching! Thanks, Barbara, for your comment!

I’m glad your business is picking up. It seems like things are bit by tiny bit getting better. We’re looking to refinance our mortgage, and the banks are lending, just with very stringent rules.

Watching the news — or in my case, reading the news obsessively — can lead to real stress. Limiting your viewing was a wise step. Now, if I could only take that advice myself!

Part 3 of the series has positive steps you can take to relieve some of the stress and anxiety of the recession. Number 1 on the list is to limit your TV news watching!

]]> By: Kim Woodbridge http://anxietypanichealth.com/2009/04/20/surviving-the-recession-part-1-what-its-doing-to-us/comment-page-1/#comment-5989 Kim Woodbridge Tue, 21 Apr 2009 20:06:55 +0000 http://anxietypanichealth.com/?p=729#comment-5989 I know that worry can be hard to control and that is stronger in some of us than in others but I wish we could learn that worry doesn't change anything. I can worry about paying my bills or think up new ways to earn some extra money. I know it isn't that clear cut for everyone because of family responsibilities, age and health issues, etc but the worry still won't change anything. People ask me if I'm worried about the economy and yes, the economy concerns me and has affected me but I have no control over it so I'm not going to spend much time worrying about it. It's a shame that there are so many people are suffering because of real economic issues and ones that they are concerned about. I guess I do worry - but more about others than myself. <abbr><em>Kim Woodbridge’s last blog post..<a href="http://www.kimwoodbridge.com/anti-social-personal-developments/" rel="nofollow">(Anti) Social Personal Developments</a></abbr></em> I know that worry can be hard to control and that is stronger in some of us than in others but I wish we could learn that worry doesn’t change anything. I can worry about paying my bills or think up new ways to earn some extra money. I know it isn’t that clear cut for everyone because of family responsibilities, age and health issues, etc but the worry still won’t change anything.

People ask me if I’m worried about the economy and yes, the economy concerns me and has affected me but I have no control over it so I’m not going to spend much time worrying about it.

It’s a shame that there are so many people are suffering because of real economic issues and ones that they are concerned about. I guess I do worry – but more about others than myself.

Kim Woodbridge’s last blog post..(Anti) Social Personal Developments

]]> By: Barbara Swafford http://anxietypanichealth.com/2009/04/20/surviving-the-recession-part-1-what-its-doing-to-us/comment-page-1/#comment-5988 Barbara Swafford Tue, 21 Apr 2009 19:27:39 +0000 http://anxietypanichealth.com/?p=729#comment-5988 Hi Mike, What an awesome article. I can see how many would become stressed and/or depressed with the economy the way it is. In our line of work (construction) we saw a sudden downturn which was scary. Fortunately it's starting to pick back up, so I pray we're out of the woods (however I'm not truly confident...yet). One thing that was affecting me negatively was watching the news. The doom and gloom was eating away at my positive attitude so I became proactive and now limit "news" watching time. That has helped a lot. <abbr><em>Barbara Swafford’s last blog post..<a href="http://bloggingwithoutablog.com/about-me-the-most-important-page-on-our-blog/" rel="nofollow">About Me - The Most Important Page On Our Blog</a></abbr></em> Hi Mike,

What an awesome article. I can see how many would become stressed and/or depressed with the economy the way it is. In our line of work (construction) we saw a sudden downturn which was scary. Fortunately it’s starting to pick back up, so I pray we’re out of the woods (however I’m not truly confident…yet).

One thing that was affecting me negatively was watching the news. The doom and gloom was eating away at my positive attitude so I became proactive and now limit “news” watching time. That has helped a lot.

Barbara Swafford’s last blog post..About Me – The Most Important Page On Our Blog

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