Comments on: The Evil Trick Anxiety Plays on You and How to Turn the Tables

By: Katherine

Katherine — Fri, 09 Jul 2010 02:44:56 +0000

This is the exact thing I have been working on.
I have a history of impulsive eating habits. As I have been able to deal with them more and more I have found that I have a history of many, many impulsive habits outside of food-related ones. I am working on dealing with emotions directly. Not eating/not-eating/reading dieting books/going on walks/listening to music/drawing/drinking water/calling a friend/etcetera, etcetera to distract me from those like I have been doing for most of my life, but rather, being still, observing what I am feeling and where it may have come from; not trying to stop it or make it more intense but just noticing.

This article is a great source of inspiration for this work! Thank you so much! It certainly didn’t seem like sneaky advertising to me. :)
-Katherine

By: Carl Harris

Carl Harris — Mon, 05 Apr 2010 21:31:46 +0000

Hi – you’ve hit the nail right on the head with this one. Trying to relax is a denial technique that suppresses the release of emotional energy – once you’ve produced an energetic emotional response in the body it’s too late to ‘relax it’ – it needs getting out through emotional release. In other words – you just feel it until it’s gone. I’ve come across a number of valid experts who do help people to get better – in spite of them preaching the ‘talk yourself into a relaxed state’ stuff.

True relaxation (and emotional freedom generally) is achieved by going fully through the emotional release process rather than running away from it or holding it at bay.

Feeling bad occasionally is a natural part of being human and telling ourself we shouldn’t just escalates it further by trapping it in.
Carl Harris´s last blog ..Six Basic Moods

By: Mike

Mike — Mon, 05 Jan 2009 06:24:04 +0000

Fear of Long Words, thanks for visiting and commenting!

I think what Rick was trying to say is that while one is having grievous symptoms of Anxiety, such as a panic attack, fighting against it does more harm than good. Relaxation can help in this instance.

What he didn’t write is that simple relaxation will help a person overcome Anxiety. As you say, it requires work to learn to control and manage your Anxiety Disorders. While learning to relax may be a part of that learning, it is a comparatively small part.

By: Fear Of Long Words

Fear Of Long Words — Mon, 05 Jan 2009 02:14:15 +0000

I don't think relaxing is what people with anxiety need to hear at all. I think they need to focus working through their anxiety instead of just thinking it will past. Fear Of Long Words’s last blog post..17 Symptoms Of A Panic Attack

By: Mike

Mike — Sat, 03 Jan 2009 17:48:34 +0000

@D — Yes, Anxiety is very confusing, and it serves to confuse the mind even more: Fear is everywhere, and it’s so hard to distinguish between it and Anxiety!

@Doris, you make an important point about self-help books — and even this blog! Anything you read has to be put into action or it’s of no use; it needs to be felt. In the final analysis, therapists are the best source of real learning to manage your Anxiety.

@Kathy, thank you for the compliments! And thank you for dropping by!

By: Kathy James

Kathy James — Sat, 03 Jan 2009 14:03:53 +0000

Great post Mike. Your excellent site is a great resource and I will be adding you to our links. Keep blogging.

By: Doris Jeanette

Doris Jeanette — Sun, 21 Dec 2008 17:17:26 +0000

Oh, I didn’t know I could put a live link in this message. The exact page is http://www.drjeanette.com/anxiety.html

If you sign up for my free newsletter, “The Vibrant Moment,” you get the free report, “Anxiety Help: 8 Solutions to Your Anxiety Symptoms.” They are all natural and healthy and empowering– of course!

By: Doris Jeanette

Doris Jeanette — Sun, 21 Dec 2008 17:11:00 +0000

You cannot read about anything and make headway toward freedom and joy. You have to experience the difference in terms of energy.

You have to feel the difference between anxiety and fear in your own body. You need to sense it and know it—deep in your bones and nervous system. That is the only way you can move toward sanity and security! For more information click on the link above at http://www.drjeanette.com and read the free article on anxiety.

By: D

Sun, 21 Dec 2008 17:02:06 +0000

I think it's so hard to "let go" because anxiety feels so, well, yucky! I've read about the difference between fear and anxiety. It didn't help me too much, but maybe that distinction will help others. Maybe I need to read about it again :) D’s last blog post..Distorted reality

By: Mike

Mike — Sat, 20 Dec 2008 16:21:53 +0000

Thank you again, Doris, for your comment.

I really like your statement, “Anxiety is a healthy sign we need to listen to… It means we need help.” I’ve never thought about anxiety in this way before, but it makes complete sense.

I’d like to hear more of your thoughts on the difference between fear and anxiety, if you have the time. It’s a subject I’ve thought a lot about.